Looking to spice it up in the bedroom? Check out these top 10 essential oils for love, libido and fun in the bedroom. I’ll also share my DIY sensual massage oil and DIY personal lubricant too. Time for date night in…
Have you ever walked down the intimates section at the drugstore? You know where the massage oils and personal lubricants are located? Well, if you turned over those bottles and check out the ingredients you would be shocked. They typically loaded with toxic ingredients (such as parabens, petroleum-based ingredients, phenoyxethanol, glycerin, propylene glycol and chlorhexidine) that can be found in industrial cleaners.
Do you want that on your body? Or how about in your mouth… you know when things get fun in the bedroom? Yeah, I didn’t think so.
Keep reading to find out how to use essential oils for romance, libido and fun in the bedroom, how to make your own DIY personal lubricant and massage oils, and where to get the best quality essential oils.
Why Do Quality Essential Oils Matter?
Think of this this way… you’re using these essential oils, massage oils, and personal lubricant on delicate body parts. While you may have never thought about it before, your skin is the largest organ in your body. So while those oils are on your skin or your delicate parts, they are getting absorbed into your bloodstream.
Not to mention, when things really get spiced up you could even end consuming them. I mean, you have heard of edible massage oil right?
So only use essential oils (here’s what I recommend) and carrier oils like coconut oil and almond oil (the base for the massage oils) that are the best quality. For essential oils, I love Young Living. They can actually be used internally. In addition, look for carrier oils that are organic and cold-pressed.
Scent also plays a huge role in romance. Our sense of smell is directly linked to the limbic system, the most primitive part of the brain associated with emotions and memories.
Of course, some fragrances will get your motor running more effectively than others. Aphrodisiac scents can help to soothe the body, relax the mind, boost self-confidence, improve circulation, and invigorate the senses to bring one to the right state of mind for experiencing love and romance.
Essential Oils for Love, Relaxation and Arousal
We’re not just biochemically linked to feel aroused through our senses. Essential oils reduce stress and elevate mood. This in itself can promote increased feelings of sensuality and energy. Think about it, the more relaxed you are the easier it is to get in the “mood”, right? So, Essential oils really have two roles in increasing libido.
How to Use Essential Oils for the Bedroom
Essential oils can help to increase libido and enhance performance for both men and women. To use essential oils specifically for romantic situations, you could choose to use them as perfume or cologne to help you and your partner get in the mood. To create a distinctive and appealing scent, blend essential oils together.
Essential oils may also be used in other ways, aside from just for their sexy scent. Adding essential oils to bath salts can provide you aromatherapy benefits as you soak and get ready for date night. Or you could prepare a romantic massage for your partner using an essential oil blend for romance. If you have a dinner and wine planned, use an essential oils diffuser and diffuse some romantically smelling essential oils in the background to subtly set the mood.
10 Essential Oils for Romance, Libido and Fun in the Bedroom
Using this essential oil for love and allure! Made with coriander, ylang ylang, bergamot, jasmine and geranium, Sensation is alluringly fragrant and exotic. It’s very romantic, arousing and helps to amplify a little excitement in the bedroom.
I use it to spray bedding or pillows to set the mood, or wear as a perfume on my neck and wrists. It instantly gets the attention of my husband.
2. Black Pepper and Peppermint
Why this duo? Black Pepper gives a little heat and Peppermint cools things off. The mixture is heavenly when applied to the thighs (try 1 drop of Black Pepper and 1 drop of Peppermint with 1 tsp of carrier oil) will definitely heat things up in the bedroom.
And word to the wise, if you don’t already have coconut oil in your bedroom and bathroom – DO IT! It works amazingly as a personal lubricant, massage oil, moisturizer and so much more. Check out my blog post on the 50+ uses for coconut oil.
4. Ylang Ylang
5. Idaho Blue Spruce
6. Hong Kuai
Hong Kuai is a tree found in the mountain rainforests of Taiwan. It’s incredibly high in sesquiterpene content, which means Hong Kuai is like getting a boost of liquid confidence.
With its woodsy aroma, it’s perfect for men as a cologne. Here’s a great recipe to increase feelings of romance, perseverance, and confidence for men: Mix 2 drops of Hong Kuai, 1 drop of Ylang Ylang and 1 drop of Blue Spruce. Apply to thighs, neck and VitaFlex points on the feet.
Mister is a blend of sage, fennel, lavender, myrtle, peppermint, and blue yarrow in a base of sesame seed oil. It can be used as a men’s cologne and used to promote inner balance.
I often pair Mister with Idaho Blue Spruce and Ylang Ylang for an intoxicating, arousing massage oil and apply to the VitaFlex points on the feet, ankles and lower abdomen.
9. Clary Sage
Clary Sage is the equivalent to Mister but for women. It has a mild, warm herbal scent that is relaxing and helps to promote inner balance and reduce stress. It has natural phytoestrogens.
I like to combine a few drops of Clary Sage and Ylang Ylang or Sensation with a few drops of coconut oil for a sensual massage oil. Apply to the VitaFlex points on the feet, ankles and lower abdomen.
10. Lady Sclareol
Lady Sclareol is a blend of rosewood, vetiver, geranium, orange, clary sage, ylang ylang, sandalwood, sage lavender, jasmine and Idaho Tansy. It has a seductive and alluring scent for both men and women – perfect for those special moments in the bedroom.
I like to apply to my neck and wrists as a perfume (which instantly attracts my husband) and mixed with a carrier oil to a warm bath to enjoy with my husband.
How To Make a DIY Lubricant – Step by Step
Using essential oils for love and lubrication! This DIY Personal Lubricant has a warming and cooling sensation. It feels amazing.
Add 10 drops Sensation blend or Ylang Ylang, 4 drops Black Pepper, 4 drops Peppermint essential oils to a 2 oz pump or dropper glass bottle.
Shake well and leave on the bedside table.
To use, shake well before use. Pour 1-2 tsp amount into the palm of the hand. Rub on body parts where you need the personal lubricant… and yes I mean those delicate parts. You’ll feel a cool and warm sensation. If the sensation is too strong, dilute with carrier oil like coconut oil.
Top Tips for Using Essential Oils for the Bedroom
- Blend essential oils with coconut oil for a sensual massage.
- Apply essential oils to your neck and wrists for an alluring perfume.
- When using the oil mix as a lubricant, If the sensation is too strong, dilute with carrier oil like coconut oil.
- For the men – Idaho Spruce is a great for a cologne and has been known to promote arousal.
How to Get Started with Essential Oils
- Sign up for my FREE essential oil email course in order to learn the basics.
- Check out my FREE online webinars all about essential oils and this beginner’s guide to essential oils.
- Get my essential oils online course – complete with video tutorials, e-book and everything you need to get started with essential oils.
- Find out how to buy essential oils at wholesale, and get a starter kit for 60% off retail prices. It’s the best deal around and a great way to get started with essential oils. Plus lots of freebies just for you!
Check Out These Other Romantic Ideas
- Get in the shower and give each other a sensual body scrub with this DIY Coconut Brown Sugar Scrub. It’s a great way to exfoliate the skin too. Just be careful not to use on delicate body parts.
- Take a relaxing epsom salt bath together with this DIY Bath Salts recipe.
- Give each other a sensual massage with almond oil or fractionated coconut oil and add 3-4 drops of essential oils that help to get in the mood (like the ones I mentioned above).
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DIY Personal Lubricant
- 2 oz fractionated coconut oil
- 10 drops Sensation or Ylang Ylang essential oil
- 4 drops Black Pepper essential oil
- 4 drops Peppermint essential oil
- Add all ingredients to a 2 oz pump or dropper glass bottle.
- Shake well and leave on the bedside table.
- To use, shake well before use. Pour 1-2 tsp amount into the palm of the hand. Rub on body parts where you need the personal lubricant... and yes I mean those delicate parts. You'll feel a cool and warm sensation. If the sensation is too strong, dilute with carrier oil like coconut oil.
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I’m just curious about this recipe as a personal lubricant during sex. Is it safe to have the essential oils internally like that? Everywhere I’ve read says to not use them on your genitals. Thanks
Tracey Black says
It depends on the essential oils you use and the brand. Avoid essential oils that say on the label not for topical use. This means it cannot be used on the skin. I personally only use Young Living essential oils and have used it for this purpose. Start with lots of dilution and 1-2 drops of essential oil. Test on a different area of the skin to make sure the oil doesn’t feel hot to the touch.
Can I apply the Goldenrod you know where?
Tracey Black says
Yes, you can get it at Young Living. Here’s my link: https://www.youngliving.com/us/en/referral/1596978. Just search for Goldenrod and add to your shopping cart. I also recommend Ylang Ylang and Idaho Blue Spruce.
carol steenkamp says
Hi Tracy, I am such a geek at these things. After 36 years of marriage…and still learning.
I have a 500ml bottle of sweet Almond carrier oil, to which I added –
14 drops Ylang Ylang EO
14 drops Black Pepper EO
5 drops Tangerine EO
14 drops Cedarwood EO
Do I need to add more drops to the mix…as an aphrodisiac? I smell the carrier, but cannot pick up much of the perfume for the oils. I love woodsy smells, that have an exotic, but not sweet edge to them.
Tracey Black says
Are you using Young Living essential oils? Those are the only oils I recommend. I typically use 10 drops of essential oils per 10 ml of carrier oil, so your ratio looks correct.
Thanks for this post. I’ve revisited it a couple of times. We’re older and need a little boost sometimes. I find that post menopause I really don’t have much of a libido at all so I need any help I can get. 🙂