Honestly, I wish someone pulled me aside after I had my first son and explained to me that my libido was going to take a nosedive. Or that sex was going to be uncomfortable. Or that laughing too hard would make me pee my pants – literally.
More importantly, I wish someone told me all those things were fixable – and not through surgery. I wish someone told me that just little things could make a big difference in making me feel like, well, me again.
So if you’re struggling with sex after childbirth, keep reading…
Tips for Having Sex After Childbirth
- Get more sleep. Chances are you’re not getting enough sleep with a newborn or infant. Take turns with your husband or partner to get more sleep – and the best advice: sleep when the baby sleeps. There’s no need to be super mom. Rest up to get your energy back.
- Get some exercise. It could be a walk around the neighborhood, yoga, zumba or whatever you like. Just remember to get the green light from your physician before starting. Exercise gives you a chance to get your body back into shape, reduce stress, decrease postpartum depression, and improve your mood and overall well-being.
- Find time for you. Whether it’s sitting in a cafe and enjoying a latte for an hour, going for a run or spending time with friends, it’s important for new moms to have a life outside of their kids. Avoid playing the martyr.
- Find ways to spark the romance. It could be reading romance novels (like me) or watching Jane Austen-inspired movies, whatever it is – go and do it to rekindle the romance in your relationship. Believe me, your partner will thank you for it. If you need some help figuring it out, check out my book recommendations on romance (yes, like Fifty Shades of Grey).
- Start doing kegel strengthening exercises. If you weren’t doing these before childbirth, start now. These are the key muscles that help to birth a baby but also help to get your vaginal muscles and pelvic floor back in shape. It can also help to prevent and reduce incontinence and make sex more enjoyable after childbirth. And consider taking it a step further by using kegel exercisers.
Why Use Kegel Exercisers
I admit that before Fifty Shades of Grey I had never heard of kegel exercisers (silver balls or Ben-Wa balls). But I met the folks from Lelo at the Natural Products Expo a few months ago and was impressed with their line of women’s intimate care products. Now what is an intimate line doing at the Natural Products Expo? Intimina Laselle Kegel Routine by Lelo are reusable and made with 100% body-safe silicone and phthalate free.
You can do kegel exercises on your own, but the Laselle kegel exercise routine is great for the next step in building up your pelvic floor strength. Plus, this kit comes three weighted balls that can be customized from easy to more challenging and a training guide to help you give your kegels a full workout. Read more about the Kegel Routine - the exercisers were really easy to use with the step-by-step directions from the guide.
In addition, I tried several products from the Intimina by Lelo, including feminine wash, accessory cleaner and the Intimina Celesse Personal Massager (I’m a huge fan of this product and I’m not embarrassed to admit it – and neither should you).
And now you can try the Intimina Laselle Kegel Routine for yourself…
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